Thursday, October 8, 2009

So There's This Guy . . .

Isn't that how the best stories from me start out?

Anyway, there was this guy, let's call him Mr X. He was good looking, and in the 5 minutes I interacted with him, seemed personable enough. He ended up with my number, and we talked - a lot. I mean, a couple of times a day. After a week or so of conversation, he stated, "I know you don't talk to other guys, right?" Uh, right at this exact second? Nope. Red flag #1.

He was coming into town, and wanted to get together for dinner. I told him I'd see what my schedule looked like. Short end of the story, I couldn't/wouldn't make it work. My "insides" were telling me "eh, buyer beware". At first he was ok with it, but he laid a couple of guilt trips on me. Not so cool. Red flag #2.

He came in again a couple of weekends later, and was NOT happy to find that I was busy. Hey, between 3 jobs, volunteering, blah blah blah, what a shocker, right? He asked me to come to his hotel room . . . at 2am. Ok, lots of things I am, foolish, eh, not so much. So I declined.

I've tried to be really nice about being "unavailable", but it occured to me, you know what? Maybe you just need to tell him. So, I tried, in a text. Hey, I'm getting with the 21st century thing, and if he can badger me in texting, well . . . . Anyway. That, didn't work so well. So rather than text back and forth, I called him. "Look, I have a lot of stuff going on. A lot of baggage I'm working through, and quite frankly, I don't have the time or the desire to fit you into my life. I'm sorry, but I can't even try the whole friendship thing." Ouch. I really, really try not to be a harsh person. So what do I get for my trouble? He STILL won't go away!!!

I don't get it. I've noticed this in men and women over the years. Why is it, when people (and yes, Sheri, talking to yourself here!) treat you badly, flat out tell you to get lost, we still hang around? Aren't there ninety-bajillion people out there for us to get to know who might actually like our company? What's up with this?


Merrie said...

You're a smart girl. Good to listen to your instincts. Being clear didn't seem to work, so just don't respond to him for a while and maybe that will detour him. I find silence sometimes help. Good luck and be careful!

Kekibird said...

Yeah....not cool. Not cool at all.

Sorry this guys being a douche nozzle. Hopefully he'll get the hit sooner or later.

Little Ms Blogger said...

He's a bit creepy.

He's probably trying so hard because he needs to get the last word in and you beat him to it --- or he hates to be disliked.

Good thing you listened to your instincts.